2000-06-01 - 09:52:42
Straight Isn't Always Narrow

Straight Isn't Always Narrow

Tonight I stumbled on a sexy, stimulating diary by Dlove, a straight guy. I connected so much with his slant on sex and love and creativity that I am reminded that heterosexuality can be fascinating too. In fact, homosexuality can be utterly boring.

Of course Dlove's frequent references to how hung he is kept me reading too. :)

Childlike curiosity and naughty openness transcend labels. Queer living can foster this creativity but then lots of gay people bore me to tears. And there are zesty heteros out there who inspire me to keep stretching myself into new experience.

I don't have enough straight men in my life. I haven't made any friends of that stripe since I moved here last August.

Back in Toronto I had one close straight friend, Phil, who gave the best hugs. I will always remember running into him and his girlfriend one Pride Day; there I was, surrounded by a million gay boys and Phil enclosed me in a hug that lasted minutes. At the end of the day I realized that his embrace meant more to me than anything else that had happened. I remember Phil's hugs with my whole body. And he loved hearing about the kind of stuff going on in my life that I write about in here, commenting often that my zany stories resonated deeply for him.

Gay men and straight men together: talking, hugging, opening up -- there's a fuck of a lot of healing there. On both sides, the Other can represent a monster image against which selves get built.

Summoning up the courage to pierce our gaze through that fear and into one another's eyes makes us better men. Better people.

We are more alike in our horny-hearts than we are different.

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